remind us of our own death, that our body wont always
remain smooth and responsive, but will someday betray
us by aging. The ideal way to age would be to grow
slowly invisible, gradually disappearing, without
causing worry or discomfort to the young. In some ways
that does happen. Sitting in a small park across from a
nursing home one day, I noticed that the young mothers
and their children gathered on one side, and the old
people from the home on the other. Whenever a youngster
would run over to the wrong side, chasing a ball or
just trying to cover all the available space, the old
people would lean forward and smile. But before any
communication could be established, the mother would
come over, murmuring embarrassed apologies, and take
her child back to the young side.
Now,it seemed to me that the children didnt feel
any particular fear and the old people didnt seem to
be threatened by the children. The division of space
was drawn by the mothers. And the mothers never looked
at the old people who lined the other side of the park.
These well- dressed young women had a way of sliding
their eyes over, around, through the old people; they
never looked at them directly. The old people may as
well have been invisible; they offend the aesthetic eye
of the mothers.
My early experiences were somewhat different; since
I grew up in a small town, my childhood had more of a
nineteenth-century flavor. I knew a lot of old people,
and considered some ofthem friends.
66. People are afraid of growing old because it is
usually associated with ___________.